Some People Are Idiots!!! re: DADT

I was on Twitter (as usual) and I came upon a tweet between two people that had nothing to do with me that annoyed the hell out of me (another reminder that I need to stop clicking on things on twitter). No doubt the annoying tweet was from a republican and they were having a Twitter convo with a very liberal person. They were talking about DADT and the not so liberal was asking about bedding for the soldiers now that DADT has been repealed. Meaning where are the gay soldiers going to sleep now because apparently gay and straight people can't share bedrooms or whatever they call the sleeping quarters in the army.

This has to be one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. In the army, men all sleep in the same area and women all sleep in the same area, correct? So why should that change now? Didn't these people share sleeping quarters BEFORE anyone knew if they were gay or straight? And it wasn't a problem then so why should it be now? This person on Twitter questioned whether men and women would now have to room together. Again, stupid. I don't see what's so wrong with a gay person and a straight person of the same sex sleeping in the same room. What the hell do you think is gonna happen?

I swear I can't take this ignorant nonsense.

What Do Atheists do for Christmas?

I was sitting in the tub today and I had a thought, what do atheists do for Christmas. They don't believe in God or Jesus right? So obviously the birth of Christ would mean nothing to them. Aside from enjoying the day off from work, what do they do? I'm really curious. Do they sit at home drinking egg nog and talking about how stupid we all or for believing in some made up holiday? Do they still exchange gifts but in the name of something else other than Christmas? Is there any kind of celebration? I really want to know but I'm too lazy to do my own research.

What do you think?

Stuff I Like: Christmas Songs

With Christmas just around the corner I thought I'd make a post about some of my favorite holiday songs. My favorite Christmas CD is Nsync's Home for Christmas. Maybe it's the 90's teenage fan girl in me but I just love that CD so much. I have to listen to it every year around this time. My favorite song in there is In Love on Christmas. Why? Because it's a great song, duh. Lol, but anyway I think it's a good album all around.

Another one of my favorite Christmas songs is All I Want for Christmas is You by Mariah Carey. I really don't even know the names of any other Christmas songs that she's done. I also like the song This Christmas that has been remade time and again but the original by Donny Hathaway is the best version I think. Anyway, here's a few videos for your enjoyment:










Happy Holidays!!!

"Digitally Dying" Celebrities

I'm sure by now most people have heard about this campaign/fundraiser that Alicia Keys is having for her Keep a Child Alive foundation. The idea is that celebrities will "digitally die" and stop using Twitter, Facebook and other social networking sites until $1 million is raised for the foundation. The last time I checked they had only raised about $280,000 but it could be more by now. I believe the whole thing started on World AIDS Day which was December 1st and it's been nearly a week so you would think they would have raised more by now but I'm honestly not surprised they haven't. There are so many problems with this I don't know where to start:

• The first problem is that the entire premise is completely narcissistic. These people assumed that their fans were gonna be so broken up about not seeing their precious tweets that they would run out and donate buckets of money. WRONG! I'm a fan of a lot of the people involved in this (in case you're wondering, some of the celebs involved include Usher, Swizz Beats, Kim Kardashian, Jennifer Hudson, and Justin Timberlake). However, if all the celebrities I follow on twitter stopped tweeting right now I honestly can't say I would care too much. Sure it's interesting to follow your favorite celebrities but I could live without it.
• The other problem is that they started with a minimum amount to donate. Admittedly I haven't done very much research on the subject but it's my understanding that there was originally a $10 minimum donation requirement. Really?! I think that for a charity people should be encouraged to donate whatever they can, whether it be $1 or $100 because every little bit helps. If every single fan of the people I mentioned all donated $1 they would have far surpassed the million dollar goal by now. I've heard that they reduced the minimum donation to $1 so at least that's something but to be honest I don't think it will help much. 
• Furthermore, all the money that they put into taking those idiotic coffin pictures could have gone towards the cause they're trying to raise money for. I can't for the life of me understand why these obscenely rich people insist on soliciting donations from their fans who are living paycheck to paycheck if that! Instead of tweeting every hour how you're "dead" and need your fans to "buy your life back" how about donating some of those millions burning a whole in your pocket to the cause you claim to be so passionate about.

Pardon the long ass post but this entire thing just pisses me off. I don't know who told Alicia Keys this was a good idea but they lied.

"If you don't know, now you know." ~Biggie

Stuff I Like: Boots

I'm pretty much in love with all kinds of boots. Ankle, knee high or even thigh highs although I don't own any. I just love boots! The only exception is peep toe boots because they don't really make sense to me. Don't get me wrong, some of them are cute but I can't see myself ever actually owning a pair. To me having a peep toe kind of defeats the purpose of a boot.

Anyway, I'm only posting this because while Christmas shopping I found this pair of boots that I fell in love with at JC Penny so of course I had to get them. They were originally $90 but they were on sale for $44.99. There were actually two pairs that I liked and the other pair were only $29 but the only size they had left was 9 (I'm 7.5). Both pairs of boots are by Decree which I had never heard of before but I'll definitely be looking for more shoes from them.
 

These are the ones I wasn't able to get because of the size :(

These are the boots I bought but I got the tan ones pictured below :)

 

 

Sorry this picture is a kinda blurry. I couldn't get a good clear picture offline.

Movie Review: For Colored Girls

I'm gonna keep this pretty brief.

I have to say that overall I really liked it. It's not my favorite movie but I'd definitely watch it more than once. It was a little awkward at times when the characters started reciting their monologues/poems or whatever they were. There were a couple that just didn't quite seem to fit into the moment and if you aren't familiar with the play or book (like myself) then it comes of as really random. The first couple of times I didn't even realize what they were talking about but then it started to make sense.

I don't want to give anything away but the scene with the kids was just INSANE. I was so shocked I couldn't even believe it. Then there was the one part with Macy Gray that was also pretty crazy. I also heard that Mariah Carey and Jurnee Smollett were originally supposed to play the characters played by Thandie Newton and Tessa Thompson (respectively). To be honest, I can't imagine Mariah in that role AT ALL. Not even a little bit. But I can totally picture Jurnee as Tessa's character (sorry, I don't remember their names).

Anyway like I said, I thought it was a good movie and I'd definitely recommend it to anyone.....not just "colored" girls.

Adopt a Kid or Have One the Old Fashioned Way?

Let me start by saying I am not in the market for a kid at the moment. It's the absolute WRONG time in my life. But with so many of my Facebook friends getting engaged, married and having babies the whole kid thing has really been on my mind a lot lately. And in case you're wondering, I'm 24. I really think this quarter life crisis thing is starting to get to me. I guess with graduation coming up next year I'm thinking a lot about my future and what I want to do with my life and what kind of time frame I'm looking at and for some reason I just can't get babies off my brain. Scary stuff huh?

Now on to the subject at hand.

I was just thinking about this because I remember hearing somewhere (possibly on an episode of Law & Order) that it was selfish to have kid when there's all these kids already out in the world who need homes. And on the one hand I totally get that and it makes perfect sense. I think a lot of people want to have kids so that they can pass on their genetic material to the next person and they can have someone that's literally a part of them. Not saying that's the only reason but I think that's a large part of it. Just being able to look at this kid and say "hey, I helped make that."

For me personally, I just feel like actually being pregnant and having a child is something that I really want to experience (as painful as it is). But no time soon of course. I have it stuck in my mind that I'm gonna have a little girl and name her Jordan.....with my luck I'll end up with all boys. Then there's the adoption thing. Would I at least consider it? Absolutely. But to be honest I would like to have at least one kid of my own. Maybe I can adopt one or two after I have my Jordan lol. But of course I'll have to graduate, find a job, a husband and a place to live first.....husband optional but that would be the ideal situation. Why you ask? Because I want to have a kid and if I sit around too long waiting for a husband in order to have a kid my eggs might be dried up by the time I find one then it'll be too late. I guess that's what sperm banks are for.

Anyway, just wondering what other people think. Is it selfish to have a biological child when there are already millions of parent-less kids out in the world just looking for a home? I don't. I think it's only natural for someone to want to have their own biological child but I can certainly see the argument for both sides.

What do you think?

Why Do You Care?

After seeing several people on twitter and other social networking sites basically begging for acceptance from their internet friends it made me wonder, why do they care? I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would care about some random person's opinion of them. Especially when they only contact you've ever had or probably will ever have with that person is via the internet. Yes, we're "friends" on Twitter because we obviously share some common interests and we're interested in what each other has to say but that's as far as it goes. I'm not really interested in all the ins and outs of your life, nor do I feel the need to tell you mine.

Some of these people just seem to have really low self-esteem and are borderline depressed and I guess just looking for some type of validation of their life. For example, one of my followers on Twitter is constantly talking about how if he deleted his account no one would care and he's always begging for people to text with him because he's bored and what not. Then just recently he said he thinks he's bipolar. This might sound harsh but call a fucking therapist and get over it. I don't go on twitter to hear about how miserable and depressed you feel. Furthermore, I don't understand why you care so much about what all of these internet faces think of you. Is your situation in real life so terrible that your internet friends are the only ones you feel you can count on? If so, that's really sad and you might want to do something about that.

I guess if a lot of people are like this I can see how internet bullying can lead to kids wanting to hurt themselves which is even more sad. I don't know, I guess I just feel like the internet and social networking sites just aren't the place for all that drama. Why not go to a support group or something and make some REAL friends?

I'm Inspired!!!

While reading another blog over on Wordpress, a quote from the author of the blog really inspired me:

"I think it’s absolute ludicrous to NOT do something just because you don’t have a companion. You will waste your whole life waiting on others to agree to do what YOU want. Makes no sense."

I swear this totally speaks to my life. So many times I don't do things or I end up altering the things I want to do just because my friends don't want to do them with me or I feel like I have to appease them. What the hell was I thinking?!?! There are a few things out there that I just feel aren't any fun to do without a companion like going to an amusement park, but so many other things I could do on my own and be just fine. There's no reason in the world for me not to do something I really want to do just because I can't get anyone to do it with me. Screw that. I need to live my own life and live it for myself.

It's gonna take baby steps but it's gonna be worth it in the end and much more fulfilling when I get to do all the things I want to do. My first mission: Go to the movies alone (I know it's not much but I'm trying okay, geez). 

Thanks to Dash of Reality for that reality check. I SO needed that in my life right now.

Things My Friends Say: Do Not Resuscitate

Today, during our post-conference for clinical we started talking about DNRs or Do Not Resuscitate orders for patients. Then we started to get into whether we would want to have a DNR order or not when one of the other girls in my clinical group uttered the following:

"I don't want a DNR, I want a DNO - do not ostomize."


A good laugh was had by all. (in case you're wondering, there's no such thing as a DNO)

Quotes by Me: Jeans

I just got home from hours at the library and my jeans were annoying me so I said:

"I need to put some shorts on because these jeans are irritating my soul."

Why am I so random you ask? Beats the hell outta me. That's all for now, short and sweet.

ps: I FINALLY found another roommate....yay! 

Bitches KILL Me!!!

So, my friends (and I use that word loosely) are on my damn nerves. We're supposed to be going on a trip to Europe next year but so far it looks like I'm going alone because I think I'm the only one who has actually booked the trip so far. First off, I already had to alter what I wanted to do to appease them which already pissed me off. I wanted to go on the 30 day tour but my one friend said she probably wouldn't be able to get a month off both of her jobs and the max she could do is about 2 weeks. Okay, as annoying as that is, I get it so I agreed to go on a 15 day tour so everyone is happy. I know it's gonna be fun no matter how long it is, but if I'm gonna go to Europe I want to go all out. *sigh* Maybe next time. 

Once we all agreed I went ahead and put the down payment on my trip because there was a discount going on at the time and I wanted to make sure to get a few bucks off the trip. I could use that money to buy souvenirs or something. Now I'm starting to feel like they're backing out and they just don't want to tell me. I told my friend when I booked and all that good stuff but I haven't heard anything from either of them. I sent them a Facebook message asking if they booked and telling them that the prices go up next month but I haven't gotten a reply.WTF?!

So now I just have no idea what's going on and it's pissing me off. I need to just call these broads and ask them what they're doing because I have no clue. One thing I know is that I'm going. Whether they go or not at this point is just whatever, but I want to go and I'm going. And if they decide not to go I'm going with my original plan to go on the 30 day tour. Screw it!

ps: If anyone would like to help me fund my little trip I would REALLY appreciate it. So far I only put down the $150 down payment to hold my spot but I'm working on the rest. Every little bit helps so if you can there's a link on the right where you can "chip in." Thanks.

Music Review: Jojo - In the Dark

It's been a while since Jojo has had any music out so when I found out she was releasing a new mixtape, I was excited. The name of the mixtape is 'Can't Take That Away From Me' and there's 11 songs on it. I like all of them but my favorites are Pretty Please and In the Dark. I no longer have the link for the free download of the mixtape but I'm sure you can find it online somewhere. This is the official video for In the Dark. To be honest my first thought was that it looked very low budget but it's growing on me. Either way I just love the song so the video could look like shit and I wouldn't care. Enjoy! (IDK why the size of the video is so off, I didn't have this problem with other videos I embedded so who knows)

RIP Rich from LFO

I don't know about the rest of you but I definitely remember LFO from my TRL watching times back in the day. I was really surprised to find out that Rich died. So in honor of him, here's a little LFO for your enjoyment.

ps: Rich is the blonde one in the videos in case you don't know...I sure didn't at first lol.

Music Review: Willow Smith – Whip My Hair

I hate to admit it but I'm 24 and I seriously love this song by Willow Smith (daughter of Will & Jada for those who don't know). For 9 yrs old she goes hard and she has talent. Of course people are hating on her already but that's to be expected. Do your thang Willow! *whips hair back and forth*

Random Kat Fact: Row Homes

I hate row homes.

I didn't realize it until I actually lived in one. That's probably one of the things I hate the most about living in Philly is these damn row homes. It's so annoying because if something happens to one house it affects all the others. For example, there was an episode of Extreme Makeover: Home Edition in Philly and the home in need of a makeover was a row home. Of course they couldn't knock the house down because it was connected to a bunch of other houses so that would have been a problem. There's also the noise you can easily hear because there's only a wall between you and the next house. And of course the people walking around on your roof trying to fix something on someone else's roof....smh Anyway, you get the point.

I HATE row homes. 

Comcast Really Tried to Play Me....smh

So, I just moved back to my apartment for school and since the cable and internet was in my old roommate's name I had to get it turned on again after she moved out. No problem right? Umm, wrong. They were scheduled to come between 7am-9am on Friday which was kind of pushing it for me because I had to be in class at 9 to take a med math test. Luckily my class is right across the street. That was the first time they offered and I felt like I had to take it because with cable companies it can take forever to reschedule.

The good news is that the guy came on time. I was a little worried at first but he actually showed up around 7:30ish. Now for the bad news....they had my address wrong somehow. The guy called and said he was having trouble finding my house and asked if the address was XX51 and I told him no, it's XX58. I don't know about everyone else but to me 1 and 8 don't sound alike AT ALL. Because of THEIR mistake the guy said he would have to call his supervisor to see if he could even do the install....great.

After he called, I had to call and get them the change my address. The first woman I talked to told me that I had to reschedule the entire thing because it was at the wrong address. Needless to say I was pissed because it wasn't my fault, it's theirs. Then she said she was gonna transfer me to whoever I needed to talk to but instead she disconnected me *sigh*. So now I had to call back again and sit on hold forever until I got a real person all the while staring at the clock and wondering if I would get this done in time to get to class. The next woman I talked to was WAY more helpful and she changed the address and everything and once I told her the cable guy was standing right there she talked to him for a bit and he was able to finish the installation...yay!

After all that everything ended up being okay but it was still a pain in the ass. The guy didn't leave until almost 8:30 because of all the extra drama of being on the phone forever trying to get things straight. The real downside was that I ended up having to pay more than what I was originally told because they had to cancel the entire order that was at the wrong address. The woman told me that September prices were now in effect so that's what I was being charged. LAME! It was only $10 more per month but still....

On the bright side, I made it to class in time for my med math test and I got 100%....YAY!

I'm Back...

Not that I ever really left. But by back I mean back at school. To be honest I didn't really miss being in Philly at all and I can't wait to go home. It's not like I have many friends left here anyway. Most of them moved away after they graduated. Classes start tomorrow and I'm already dredding everything about this week. Not to mention that I have no cable or internet until Friday (I'm typing this in the computer lab). And of course I still don't have a roommate....ugh. Hopefully someone will be moving in soon but it's taking entirely too long to find someone so it's really stressful.

In addition to that nonsense, it looks like I may need to take yet another class in order to graduate. This wouldn't be annoying if I hadn't been told before that I did NOT need this particular class. Even then I could deal with it but of course the class doesn't fit in with my nursing schedule. Color me surprised :/. I don't know why but I feel like it's always one step forward, two steps back for me. Maybe I need a vision board or something to put some positive thoughts out into the universe for myself. I just don't know what to do about anything right now. I feel like I'm in a borderline state of depression, or maybe it's just homesickness.

Anyway, I really don't have much to say right now I just wanted to post something because I really haven't in a while. Hopefully once I get my internet back I can go back to posting on a more regular basis if I'm not too busy studying.

Later....

Quotes by Me: Lauren London

While sitting at a bar watching the movie ATL, I said the following about the actress Lauren London:

"Can she actually act or is she just cute?" 

That's all for this installment of quotes by me. And I'm probably gonna make this a somewhat regular occurrence on my blog...yay me!

ps: I still don't know the answer. 

My Ship Has a Major Leak in It

So remember that job interview last month that I totally bombed? No, well that's probably because I never wrote a blog post about it. It was probably my worst interview EVER which is difficult because I suck at interviews anyway. But to my surprise I just got a call for a job offer for that very position...yay! In case you're wondering it's a student nursing assistant position in pediatric oncology. Cool shit if you ask me. It's been almost a month since the interview but the lady told me they interviewed a lot of people. Of course I was all too eager to accept since I'm broke and I've been jobless for way longer than I care to admit. And then the other shoe dropped.

They only do orientation for the job every other week and it's a three day thing so you have to be available to do it all three days. Unfortunately the most recent one started Monday. Too bad I didn't get this call last week huh? The next orientation isn't until August 30th but of course this also happens to be the day that I start school again, in another state. I certainly can't take 3 days off school to do an orientation, especially if one of those days is a clinical day. The next time I would be available is for winter break starting in December but of course the orientation starting on December 13th is also the same day that finals week starts. Gotta love that. The next one is January 3rd. The lady said she's gonna see if they would be willing to hold the position for me until January.

It's possible because it's only a casual status position with no benefits so it's basically me showing up if and when they need me. She also made it clear that there's no guarantee of hours. But then again if they were looking they obviously need someone so I can't be mad if they're not willing to wait. I guess I'm just gonna have to wait for the phone to ring again and keep my fingers crossed. If I get this foot in the door now it'll put me that much closer to getting an RN position at this hospital after I graduate next year which is exactly what I want. Wish me luck!

I've Been Slacking

I know I've been seriously slacking on my blog lately. To be honest I haven't had that much to talk about lately. Life is pretty dull right now. Things with "penis man" or sort of at a plateau so I'm not sure what to make of it. I already posted about the nonsense that is my roommate situation and I still don't have a job. I just don't get it, I mean besides the fact that I suck at job interviews there's really no reason for anyone not to hire me. I'm pretty good at this nursing thing, well student nursing but you know what I mean. Maybe if I didn't bomb my last interview someone might actually know that. Seriously, the lady asked me a question and I completely blanked out and was sitting there in dead silence for what felt like forever. FAIL!

Anyway, school is starting in a few weeks and since I'm gonna be a senior I need to make sure to do all that crap that looks good on a resume but I was too lazy to do for that past few years. Maybe I can take some kind of job interview course to work on my skills because I really suck at talking about myself. I should look into that. On the up side I'm trying to plan a month long trip to Europe with this group that does tours for next year as a graduation present. Yay me! That's all for now, peace out.

ps: I still don't have a new roommate....smfh

Roommate Nonsense

Is it wrong that I want to beat the hell out of my roommate? I got an email from her last Monday saying that she's moving out in mid August sometime. Really dude, wtf?! This isn't a complete surprise because she mentioned a while back that she would "probably" be moving out but didn't have any definite plans at that time. That's part of the reason I'm so pissed about this. Let me give you the little bit of back story there is on the situation.

At the beginning of the year, maybe February or March, is when she told me that she would most likely be moving out sometime in the near future. She didn't have any set plans but she said she would keep me informed. Great. Then sometime after that I asked what was going on and if I should start really trying to find a new roommate. She said yes, so I put the new roomie search in full effect. She didn't mention anything for a while so I asked again what was going on because a few people were interested in the place. This had to be sometime in April. She said she still didn't have a date and at that point wasn't even sure if shwas moving at all. Really bitch?! SMFH! I had no choice but to put the search on hold because I didn't have a move in date for potential roommates.

fast forward to now and I have roughly 2 weeks to find another roommate because she waited until now to tell me that she found a new job AND a house in another part of town. I'm convinced that I'm just not meant to have a roommate, unless you count my dad. *sigh* Fuckery I tell you.

Dating Crazies

Have you ever dated someone who you're almost positive is certifiable? I'm asking because when I was at dinner with a couple of my friends they were both exchanging stories about their past relationships with crazy dudes. I already knew about my friend J's relationship because eventually the guy started to take his crazy out on me and I warned her that she would end up like those women on Maury who are too scared to leave their abusive husbands and get acid thrown on them when they do. Was that a run on sentence? I'm not sure, it's been a while since I've had a grammar class but that's beside the point.

Anyway, I knew J's bf was crazy because at one point he was trying to get his sister to fight me because he claimed that I was disrespecting their relationship and I didn't like him. He also said I was a bad influence and that J acted different every time I was around. Hey loser, maybe I don't like you because my friend told me you showed up at her house at 3am asking her where she was and threw a pitcher of water at her! Fucking asshole. Then my friend C was talking about her most recent ex and how the crazy runs in his family. It was actually pretty funny.

I was sitting there in silence because as I told them, I've never dated a crazy and they responded with "you will." They basically told me that it was coming and when it does I won't recognize myself and it'll be crazy but that I'll laugh about it afterward. This is what brought me to my original question about dating crazies. They made it seem like it was inevitable, almost a right of passage but I don't think it has to be. In fact I hope it's not because I have neither the time or patience for that bullshit.

So.....have YOU ever dated a crazy? Do you really think that we all get that inevitable ONE in our life that makes us question our own sanity? 

Out of Sight, Out of Mind or Absense Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

I've reached a familiar phase in my "relationship" with this guy, if you can really call it that. We've been hanging out for a few weeks now but it's nothing really serious at this point. I find myself at a point now where I'm not really sure where things are going or how it's gonna end up.

The thing about me is that I tend to have a very short attention span when it comes to guys. If a guy isn't making his presence known in some form it's very easy to me to just stop caring and eventually forget about him altogether. Even the tiniest things will suffice, a phone call here, text message there, hell even drop a note on my Facebook wall. Just something to let me know you're around. Why you ask? Because I'm one of those out of sight out of mind people. I'm sure there are many folks out there for which absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am not one of those people. At least not long term.

In the beginning, I totally obsess over the next time I'm gonna speak to or see the boo of the moment. Then after a while it's just like whatever. I guess it's just as much my fault as his. If I really wanted to talk to you I could just as easily pick up the phone but after a while I don't really care enough to bother. That's kind of the point I'm at with this guy. I not so far gone that I just don't give a fuck anymore but right now I really feel like I could go either way. I can either be like screw it and stop caring or I can go back to a milder form of my usual obsession. It's kind of up in the air at this point and the fact that he never responded to my text yesterday isn't exactly helping. I wonder if I should call him today...hmm.

Whatever, I guess I'll just have to see what happens.

Movie Review: Inception

I honestly had no intention of seeing Inception but I'm kind of glad I did. My friend and I were at happy hour at T.G.I. Friday's and somehow movies came up and she suggested we go. Fine by me. I didn't really know what it was about but based on what little I did know I didn't think it was my kind of movie. Turns out I like more different types of movies than I thought. Hurray for my self discovery! Now let's get to the point.

The one negative thing I have to say about Inception is that it was too damn long. I believe it was 148 minutes according to the movie theater website. Seriously, it started at 8:30 and we didn't get out of there until damn near 11pm. If not for my popcorn and the occasional comic relief in the film I probably would've fallen asleep.

Other than that I really don't have anything bad to say about the movie. I thought the whole idea about being able to go into other people's dreams and plant ideas was pretty cool. I also really liked the dream within a dream stuff even though it had me confused for a minute. I'm not gonna give away the end because I'm not that asshole but I was a little mad about it. Not in a bad way though, but I can't really say more without giving it away. It's funny because when the movie ended everyone in the theater let out a simultaneous "aww." But not the sad or sappy "aww" more like a "you're really not gonna tell me what happens" kind of aww, if that makes any sense. It was leaning more towards an "aww damn!" kind of thing but I'm gonna stop trying to explain it now because I'm making myself crazy.

Anyway, if you liked Shutter Island (also starring Leonardo DiCaprio) you'll probably like this movie because it's really similar in a lot of ways. I'll give it 4 out of 5 stars.

The Cat Has Been Found!!!

Just a little mini update on the missing cat. She was found...yay! Turns out she was locked in the basement. She must have gone down there when someone was doing laundry and didn't get back up the stairs fast enough. It's kind of weird because when I went down there looking for her with the flashlight I didn't see a damn thing. But someone else was down there doing laundry and she turned up. Weird.

Anyway, that's all. Everything is right with the world again.

My Cat is Missing

As the title says, my cat is missing. No one in the house has seen her since around 7-7:30 last night. We thought she was hiding somewhere but now I'm not so sure. Usually when we pop open a can of Fancy Feast she comes running to eat but she didn't. We figured she was probably hiding somewhere and would come out eventually but she never did. I woke up this morning to find that the food in her bowl hadn't been touch. WTF?!

This actually happened before when I was in high school which is why I'm not freaking out as much as I probably should be or at least as much as everyone else. My cat was missing for about a week and we thought she ran away and died or something but it turns out she was in the downstairs apartment the whole time. One day my aunt called freaking out because she saw my cat in the house and told me to come and get her. I guess I'm hoping that this is a similar situation but I'm not sure. We live on the first floor now and I checked the basement and didn't see her. I even when upstairs but nothing. The only thing I can think of is that she got outside somehow. If that's the case who knows where she could be now. She's kind of old too (about 12, which I hear is old for a cat) so it's possible that she could've died and we just haven't found her furry little body yet. I really hope that's not the case.

WHERE THE HELL IS MY CAT?!??!?!?!?!?!?!



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Stuff I Like: The Series

In the spirit of Random Kat Facts, I've decided to start another semi-regular thing on my blog called stuff I like. Obviously it's gonna be posts about stuff I like at any given moment or maybe something that I've always liked but just feel like sharing.

Today's thing I like:

Frappes. To be more specific the caramel frappe from McDonald's. I had one for the first time the other day when my friend and I were walking around NYC dying from the heat. I figured the frappe would keep me cool and awake because it has caffeine in it. It was pretty good and I could definitely drink those on a regular basis. Not sure if I'm gonna try the mocha. I'm a chocolate freak so it seems only natural that I would but something about mocha flavored drinks and my stomach doesn't mix. TMI? Perhaps. That's all for now.

Review: The Hills Series Finale

To be honest I started watching The Hills later and I was never really a fan of Laguna Beach so when I finally did start watching The Hills it was during a time when they were showing a marathon on MTV. Not that it really matters when I started watching but I just thought I'd share.

Basically for a series finale I thought the episode sucked. And what was with that little Hollywood backdrop thing at the end? Was that confirmation that the whole thing was fake? I'm pretty sure everyone already knew that. The ending was just lame if you ask me. In fact the entire show has been lame ever since Lauren left. I don't care what anyone says that was HER show and without her it didn't stand a chance. I'm not the least bit surprised that the series ended as soon as she was gone.

All that BS with Kristin and Brody was more annoying than anything. Either get together or just be friends, enough with the nonsense. Audrina and Justin? Whatever. He may be hot but he's a loser as far as boyfriends go. Yay for Lo being practically engaged! Who knew she even had a man? And that guy that Stephanie met seems pretty decent. They look like a cute couple. Speidi wasn't there but they're both fame whores who can kick rocks. Poor Heidi should've listened to her friends and family about Spencer from the beginning.

Anyway, The Hills going off the air is really no big loss to me. It was fun while it lasted but hey, life goes on.

Is it a girl thing or am I just ridiculous?

Once again I've started obsessing over a guy after only really knowing him for a short time. Actually I met this guy almost a year ago but we've only recently starting hanging out or "dating" if you will. It was only one "date" so I don't know if I would call that dating anyway but whatever. The point is now I'm back to doing that ridiculous thing I do when I obsess over a guy to the point where it drives me crazy. I'm just wondering if this is a general girl thing or if I'm just weird like that.

Basically ever since Monday the 5th we've talked on the phone almost everyday. I saw him the Friday before that but didn't call because I knew he had some things going on. Then when I finally did talk to him Monday he's all "why didn't you call?" First, I didn't realize I was supposed to call and second I don't want to seem like I'm all up on his dick for lack of a better term. Anyway, for the rest of the week we talked on the phone at least once everyday, maybe more. Then Friday we had our little date then I spent all day Saturday with him until around 7pm. He told me he was kidnapping me so he would have my undivided attention.

He dropped me off Saturday evening and said to call him and in my mind I'm thinking like the next day or something. Wrong. When I called the next day he's all like "hey, you were supposed to call me" and I told him I didn't realize he meant that same day. I was just with you for almost an entire day so I figured we could both use a break. He mentioned something about us trying to work out when to see each other this week because he starts school again so with that and work he's gonna be busier than usual.

Now on to my ridiculousness. Is that a word? Whatever. Anyway, it's been a day and I haven't talked to him since yesterday afternoon sometime and I'm having a fit. WHY?!?! Why do I always to this to myself? I get way too attached way too fast and it becomes a problem. I mean here I am freaking out because this guy hasn't called me since yesterday! Who does that?!?! Is this normal? Do all girls do this or it is just me? Someone snap me out of this and help me come to my senses!

The Return of Penis Man

Oddly enough I don't think I've ever written on my blog about penis man before. I guess because around the time I started blogging I was pretty obsessed with my Aussie man I met on Spring Break (I actually talk about him in five different posts here, here, here, here, and here. Sad I know...smh). In that case I guess I should give a little back story on penis man and how he got that name.

I met this guy at a local bar that my friends and I always complain about yet still continue to go back there every now and again. It was dark and I had a few adult beverages in my system so I didn't really know what he looked like but he had to be at least somewhat cute or I never would've given him my number. Anyway, we texted a bit then I left to go back to school and we continued texting and talking on the phone for a while. Then came the penis incident. *sigh* Why me?

One morning I woke up to a text from him which was annoying because I was actually sleeping at the time and the phone woke me up so already I'm pissed. Then imagine my shock when I see a picture message of an erect penis, which I assume was his, and a message saying "morning wood for you." Umm, pardon me? Mind you I had only seen this guy in person one time which was the night we met. Everything else was just through the phone. I was so shocked I didn't even know what to do or say so I didn't do anything. I just ignored it and tried to go back to sleep. From then on I referred to him as Penis Man to my friends and in my mind. This was strike 1 by the way.

Fast forward several months later and he's back in the picture. He's actually been pretty persistent about talking to me and trying to hang out so I'll give him that. Unfortunately he's already on strike 2 after only a few weeks of us talking again. He said something along the lines of "I'm not really feeling this sarcastic, cynical thing." Really dude because that's kind of my personality. It didn't really register at first because I was a little tipsy when he said it but after sobering up the next morning it pissed me off. In fact the entire phone conversation that night was strange but it's too much to get into here. I'm really hoping he doesn't make strike 3 because aside from the things I mentioned he's actually a decent catch. He's cute, he meets the height requirement, he's in school, working and very focused. I dig.

Screening Comments

There are several blogs out that require the owner to approve a comment before allowing it to be posted. I can understand this to an extent because some people just go around posting spam or other comments that are just unnecessarily mean and negative so screening is necessary. However, I don't agree with not allowing a comment just because you happen to not like it or it doesn't say what you want it to say.

I was inspired to write this by another blog I follow who will remain nameless. This girl just started some kind of fashion thing on her blog where she shows an outfit she's wearing and there is a poll where you can vote on whether you like it or not and of course leave comments. I left a comment that I didn't really care for the outfit but that I loved the shoes. There were no other comments at the time and I had to wait for it to be approved so it was just whatever. Then I go back today and I see two other comments that are very positive and raving about how they love the outfit and yet my comment is nowhere to be found...hmm. This lead me to believe that she didn't 'approve' my comment because I wasn't totally in love with the outfit like the other two.

It's kind of annoying if you ask me. I mean why bother to ask people's opinion on something but then when their opinion isn't what you want it to be you shut them down. I mean really who does that? It just kinda pissed me off but whatever. It's her blog and if she wants to screen comments and make it look like everyone likes that outfit that's her business. At least now I know that she can't take criticism....clearly.

Random Kat Fact: Loaning Money

Today's Kat fact:

I'm not one of those people who stays annoyingly on top of someone after I loan them money. Admittedly, I've never loaned anyone more than about $100 so if it was a really large sum of money like in the triple digits or more I might feel differently. But if it's something smaller like 10 or 20 bucks I won't go crazy. I know a few people that will bug the hell out of you until you pay them back. It's really annoying which is why I've never borrowed a significant amount money from anyone. At most I've asked someone to loan me a couple of dollars until I could make change or if I didn't have cash on me at the time but nothing serious.

Long story short, the point is simple: Don't loan what you can't afford to give away. I don't know who said that but they were right. Chances are a true friend or family member will pay you back as soon as they can but that isn't always the case. So if you can't afford to let it go, don't.

Review: BET Awards

I knew the BET Awards were gonna be nothing but fuckery and coonishness because that's really all BET is lately anyway (which is why I really don't watch anymore, except for The Game). I was actually looking forward to having a good laugh....and I did. I'm not gonna talk about everything, just a few moments that stood out for me.

Let's start with the host. As much as I love Queen Latifah, she really wasn't that funny as a host. And what was up with those weird costume changes and half assed skits? Weird. The best part was the very beginning when she opened and that rap she did. Also the white outfit at the end was fly. Queen always looks good.

Alicia Keys. She sounded good and looked good for sure and I'm glad she won. I just don't understand why she was crawling around on that piano. Is it okay for a pregnant woman to do that? I was a little worried. I wonder if Mashonda was watching, HAHAHAHA! (That was wrong, I know)

Chris Brown. I must admit that his MJ tribute was SO on point. Much better than that nonsense BET tried to pass off as a tribute last year. But what the hell was he crying about? People on twitter talking about they got emotional because he was crying and all this bullshit about him breaking down. People PLEASE! I'm so over this dude I don't know what to do with myself. Yes he's talented but he's also a woman beater. People keep saying you have to forgive, etc but he doesn't need my forgiveness. I'm not the one he beat up so it doesn't matter. I'm sure he's sorry and he should be. I still just can't fuck with him anymore. *shrugs*

Patti Labelle. YES bitch! Kick those shoes off and SANG!!!! That is all.

Monica. First off, she should have been nominated for best female R&B instead of that bootleg ass centric award. Second, what the hell was up with those big ass shoulder things on her outfit when she was performing? Girl NO! Last but not least, despite being partially distracted by the oversized shoulders, her performance was on point. That girl has a voice.

Prince Tribute. It was cool, but his facial expressions during it were the best part. And who wears a shirt with their own face on it? Vain much?

DeBarge. To be honest I'm still not sure which one of the DeBarge's it was but he gave those youngins a lesson.

These are all the things that really stood out for me. Everything else was just whatever. And yes I will be tuning in for next year's coonery as well.

Review: Daytime Emmy's

To be honest I don't even know why I still bother to watch the Daytime Emmy's. It's basically just a rigged popularity contest rather than an actual place to honor people who are deserving for their work. The same people are always nominated and the same people always win. For example, Anthony Geary (Luke, GH) pretty much always wins whenever he's nominated. I think he even got a pre-nom this year but I have no idea what for. What the hell did he do? Whatever.

First of all there was way too much stuff going on that had nothing to do with daytime which was really annoying. They also didn't bother to show the reels/clips that the nominees submitted when they were announcing the awards which was a big WTF for me. Then at the end it seemed like they were rushing through to big awards because they spent so much unnecessary time on musical numbers that no one really cared about. On top of that, there was only one winner from the shows I watch and that was Julie Berman (Lulu, GH). I'm only talking individual winners because I think GH won for something else unrelated to acting. 

The one good thing I saw was Trevor St. John in a suit =D. Other than that the show was a bore.

Overall I thought the Daytime Emmy's were a boring waste of life. No wonder the genre is going down the drain. So sad. SMH

RIP MJ

This isn't going to be a long drawn out post, just a little acknowledgment and my opinion on a few things regarding Michael Jackson. I just finished watching the 20/20 special about MJ for the one year anniversary of his death so I guess that's why I'm writing this. A few things I got from it:

1. This so-called "Dr." Conrad Murray needs to be put down. He admitted that when he performed CPR on MJ that it was his first time ever performing CPR. Really dude? Then on top of that he was doing it on a bed with only ONE hand. Newsflash idiot you're supposed to put the person on a hard surface in order to do the chest compressions and unless it's a baby you need both hands! And don't get me started on the amount of meds he prescribed. Michael was obviously addicted but as a "doctor" this loser shouldn't have been enabling him. Fuckery I tell you.

2. Also, why is it that not 2 seconds after their father's death there's videos and pictures of the kids all over the place? It's really a shame considering all he did to keep exactly this type of thing from happening. Some people thought the masks were too much and while it was a bit extreme, I can totally understand the reasoning behind it. It was for protection plain and simple. Being Michael Jackson's kid you need all the protection you can get because people are crazy. I really can't blame the guy.

Now on to something a little more lighthearted. Some of my MJ favorites or at least one:

Favorite Video: Remember the Time (I know for most people it's probably Thriller but for me it's a close second)

Favorite Song: Too many to choose. I really can't pick just one so I'll go with my top five.
1. Dirty Diana
2. Remember the Time
3. Heaven Can Wait
4. They Don't Care About Us
5. Man In the Mirror

That's all for now. DEUCES!!!

Relaxed or Natural

A pretty heated debate in the Black community. I've heard/read some comments from natural women saying that Black women get relaxers because somewhere in their mind they want to look White or because they are ashamed of their natural hair. That may actually be true for some people but it kind of sounds like bullshit to me. Then there are the relaxed girls who say they get relaxers because they just don't want "nappy" hair and the straight hair is easier to manage. That's pretty much the case for me. I just like my hair straight. It's that simple. There's no underlying reason buried deep in my subconscious. It is what it is.

I can't for the life of me understand why all this deep philosophical thinking goes into something like hair. No offense to my natural girls but from what I've seen and heard it's mostly you all who are making a big thing about relaxers, hair textures, etc. What's the big damn deal? It's just hair! Why do you care what I do with my hair anyway? I'm the one who has to live with it so why is the fact that I use a chemical straightener so significant to you?. Why does it bother you so much? Now I'm not saying all natural women are like this. But I don't like how some of them seem to look down on you or make you feel bad for having a relaxer like it's the worst thing in the world. That natural hair on your head doesn't bother me at all because that's your business. I don't look at you and think "ugh, this nappy headed bitch needs to straighten that mess" because that would be mean and unnecessary. And to be honest I don't really care that much about what decide to do with YOUR hair. So I don't understand why you care so much about MY hair.

Anyway, a couple of my friends are starting to transition over to Team Natural and it started making me think about my own hair. After doing a little (emphasis on the little) research I'm seriously considering going the natural route. But that doesn't mean I'm gonna rock an afro, braids or dreads because when I try to picture myself with any of those hairstyles it just looks all kinds of wrong. I don't mind giving up the relaxer and being chemical free but I still want straight hair. Does that mean I'm not really natural? Maybe, at least according to some sources. I'm NOT doing any kind of big chop on my hair because I really like length and the TWA isn't for me. You can't even imagine how weird I would look with any kind of afro, much less a teeny weeny one. I hear it's harder to transition with the two different hair types but it can be done, it just takes more work.

I just got a relaxer at the beginning of this month so I still have a good amount of time to decide if this is something I really want to stick with. No matter what I'm still gonna straighten my hair just in a more healthy, non permanent way. I'll let you know what happens.

Mini Vacation Update

I know it's only been a few days since my last post but I feel like I've been gone forever. Anyway, I'm still here just on a weekend vacation....sort of. My dad and I drove down to Virginia with my cousin to visit my family for the weekend. It's actually the one year anniversary of my uncle's death and my cousin wanted to be down here with her mom and sister for it. He actually died on Father's Day of last year...the universe has quite a sick sense of humor.

Now I'm down in the country for the weekend where they drive slow and don't have sidewalks. We're staying near the Fort Lee army base so the place is crawling with soldiers because they got paid this week. According to my cousin a lot of the soldiers take hotel rooms for the weekend when they get paid. I don't know why but whatever. My dad wanted to take me to show me where he was stationed but he wakes up way too early, especially for a Saturday. And did I mention my family calling and waking me up at 7:34am to see if I wanted to come over for breakfast? Umm, call me in like 5 hours for lunch. Not much to say so I guess that's all for now. I know this post is a little all over the place so here's a pretty picture of the backyard for your enjoyment:

Asshole Army Recruiters

This kind of randomly popped into my head today while I was looking around my house noticing all the American flags and army memorabilia. Why you ask? Because my dad is an army vet so there's tons of flags, hats, stuff from the VA and other armed services related things floating around my house. Looking around at this stuff made me flashback to a phone call I got in high school from an army recruiter who was a total ass.

So we all know that once you reach your junior or senior year in high school you start getting letters, phone calls, etc from recruiters asking you to join the armed forces in exchange for tuition. I was no exception to this solicitation during my last days in high school. For the most part they were okay and generally nice about me turning them down. I actually went so far as to have a meeting with one of them at their office and he was really cool but eventually I turned that down too, even after I took some kind of reading test or whatever it was on the computer. It was a while ago so I don't remember exactly.

Unfortunately not everyone was so nice about my decision not to enlist in the army. One guy called and gave me his little speech about why I should join and I said "no thanks, I'm not interested" to which he replied "so you're gonna leave our nation's freedom up to other people?" To that I replied "I guess so" to which he replied "well, freedom isn't free" and hung up the phone. Really sir? Who the hell does that?! JERK! Everything isn't for everyone. Not everyone and their mother was meant to join the army! And I think it was a very asshole move for him to try to make me feel bad that I turned him down. Believe me when I tell you, I was NOT meant to be anybody's soldier. Though I did consider working as a nurse for/in the army for a short time.

Anyway, after that little exchange I really had a bad taste in my mouth about any and all army personnel. Actually I have a problem with most men in uniform (i.e. cops, army guys, marines, etc), I don't think I could ever date one which is odd because my dad was in the army and he's great (and I'm not just saying that because he's my dad). Weird how that works out. Maybe I've seen too many Law & Order episodes about guys coming back from overseas with PTSD or police officers who abuse their wives and get away with it just because they're cops.Who knows?

Now of course I appreciate everything that people in the armed forces do for our country, however I do NOT appreciate being made to feel uncaring or un-American just because the army wasn't MY calling in life. So asshole army recruiter if you're out there, kick rocks and fuck off. Please and thank you.


ps: Where were all those "Proud to be an American" bumper stickers BEFORE 9/11? Yeah, exactly. 

2nd Trip to Atlantic City

This trip to AC was sort of the opposite of the first one. This time around it started out great but the ending kind of sucked and the last time things started kind of sucky but ended up being fun. Just a friendly warning that this post is probably gonna be kinda long but there are some pretty pictures in it for you along the way.

This time around we caught the train to Jersey because my friend 'M' got some kind of hook-up through some guy she didn't really know for a free room. And so the trouble began. We waited around the lobby of the hotel for this guy who M had never actually met to come and sign us in for the room because she didn't know if it was reserved under his name or hers (it was under his). There were 4 of us girls and suddenly there were 4 of those guys too....that stench you smell is a set up. They offered to walk us to our room and carry our bags but unfortunately it didn't end there. Somehow they ended up making themselves annoyingly comfortable INSIDE our room. One dude had the nerve to stretch out on the bed and put his crusty sneakers on the comforter WE have to sleep on and talk on his cell phone. Really asshole? UGH!

The girls and I sat by the window trying to figure out subtle ways to get them to leave. Eventually we told them that my friend L needed to change clothes and they left. But not before pretending that they couldn't find the fourth room key. Umm, are you serious? You really thought we were gonna let you leave that room with one of the keys to our room?! FUCK OUTTA HERE!!! Not surprising after M told us that he asked the woman at the desk for 5 keys when there were only 4 of us staying in the room. Fuckery I tell you. SMH

View from the window in our room.

So once we ditched those losers we decided to walk along the boardwalk to find some food which was great until the seagulls kept trying to attack us. There was one in particular that kept inching closer and closer to us when we were trying to eat. And they have a habit of flying uncomfortably close to your head. My friend L was literally a step away from being pooped on. I swear, had she been up a foot further it would've landed right on her head. Needless to say we ate indoors for the next meal. After that we went to this mall called the Pier and caught a water show which was pretty cool before heading to the liquor store. Did I mention those guys kept calling M trying to hook up and hang out with us during the day and at night? Eww, get lost.

This slice of pizza was bigger than my head...truly

This was in the liquor store...very cool if you ask me.

Quick side note: How is it possible that they don't have fried dough in Atlantic City? None that I saw anyway. I swear these places either have funnel cake or fried dough but never both. Fried dough is so much better by the way. And did my friend L really ask 'what is fried dough'? Unreal...I can't.

Then came the magic dress incident. Have you all heard of this thing? The magic dress/skirt thing can be tied in all these different ways so that it ends up being a bunch of different dresses in one. It's actually pretty cool once you figure out how to tie it (I'm still working on it). All of us except J got one because she couldn't find a color she liked. Then on the way out we saw one on the mannequin at the door that we all loved. It was freaking perfect. At first we were all kind of playing around about who wants it or was anyone gonna switch, yadda yadda. Then it ended up being J and L trying to decide. Apparently J saw it first (according to M, I'm actually not sure) and since she didn't have one I figured it would be no big deal for her to have it. Then when no one staked claim L grabbed it and went to the cashier and switched for the one she had. J was pissed, obviously. L didn't really care too much.

This was from the water show at The Pier.

To top off the night we went to party at mur.mur in the Borgata (yay!). Now I know what mur.mur Mondays are all about. It was SO much fun. That is until M lost her phone. This may sound bad but I'm glad she lost it towards the end of the night because if she lost it earlier it would've ruined the fun completely. L, M and I spent our last half our or so staring at the floor looking for a phone. J had disappeared with some guy she met. I wonder how her boyfriend felt about that...hmm. Turns out she was just upstairs in the casino and he was unsuccessful in his attempts to get her to go back to his room but still. Anyway, we waited around for the club to close but they wouldn't allow us to go back in to look for the phone. After sitting there for who knows how long they told us we had to check with security in the morning to see if anyone turned it in. Fine, whatever. One thing that pissed me off was the fact that L and I seemed to be looking harder for M's phone than she was and then she had the nerve to catch an attitude talking about how it doesn't effect us the same and we don't understand because it's not our phone missing. Really? So why the fuck are we sitting around after the let out for an hour or more trying to find YOUR phone? Ugh.

This how our night started by the way. Lovely adult beverages.

Anyway, we left after a while and L and I were both hungry so we stopped at a little corner spot. J wanted to go back to the room because by this time it was almost 6am and she had to leave AC early to catch the train back to Philly and go to work. Why she scheduled herself to work the next day I don't know but hey, get your money girl. M on the other hand was just stank about it which pissed me off again. I didn't get anything because I still had pizza from earlier in the room but L looked around for a while before getting something. M was all like 'is it really that serious? do you have to eat right now?' and she went with J back to the room. Again, really? After this girl sat around a hotel for over an hour trying to find your phone you can't even wait 5 or 10 minutes for her to buy a sandwich? Cut the bullshit.

The next morning we went to the hot tub and the pool then we checked out. We went back to the security office at the Borgata but no one turned in the phone. No clue what happened to it but whatever. I was over it from the first little hint of M's attitude and claiming that we didn't care or understand. Fuck your phone dude, seriously.

Like I said, everything was pretty great up until the end. Even the crazy birds which I'm sure we'll all be laughing about for a while. And if you've never had apple dumplings with ice cream you should. It tastes like hot apple pie with ice cream....yummy!

Book Review: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

I've been wanting to read Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey for a while now but with school I really didn't have much time for leisure reading. Now that I finally had the chance to read the whole thing I thought I'd share my thoughts with whoever stumbles upon this blog.

For those who don't know, the book is basically a relationship guide for women from a man's perspective. He gives pretty good insight about how men think about relationships which is very different from the way women thing about them. Anyway, I really liked the book. The only part I didn't read was the chapter about single parent dating because I don't have any kids so none of his advice on the subject would apply to me.

The main thing that really stood out to me was that women really do have a lot of power over what goes on in a relationship but either they don't realize it or they just don't use it. Steve talks about how women are the ones who decide when, where, or if they have sex with a guy. It doesn't always seem like it but when you think about it it's actually true. The best thing was where he said that women need to get standards which I totally agree with. Not like Chilli or anything but enough to let someone know that you're only going to accept the best. The women with standards are the ones he referred to as 'keepers' while those without standards are pretty much just 'game fish' to be thrown back once men get what they want from them (which is sex of course).

In the book he also talks about the differences between men and boys. He gives women questions to ask to guys they're interested in and based on their answers you can tell if he's a real man with his shit together (or at least working on getting it together) looking for a meaningful relationship or just a boy playing games to get some ass. I really don't feel like going into too much detail here but some of the questions were about his future plans, what he thinks of you, etc. Perfectly logical stuff that I don't think most women ask. I know I never have but I'll definitely start after reading this book. I'm not in the mood to deal with the same nonsense from guys anymore.

One thing I got from the book that I pretty much already knew is that all men are basically the same. But I'm sure most people knew that already. They're very simple creatures when you really think about it. And I don't mean that in a bad way. Anyway, long story short, I would definitely recommend this book to any woman out there wondering what the hell is up with dudes and how they can get the type of relationship they want. I'll give it 4 out of 5 stars.


p.s. On the radio show Steve said he's working on a second book where he drops even more knowledge about men for women. I'm looking forward to it :)

Hot Jam

It's summer (almost) which means that every radio station worth anything is promoting some special summer concert with most people's favorite artists. Lucky us. My friends and I went to a concert in Hartford promoted by one of our local radio stations and I came home somewhat annoyed after the events of the night. Here's what happened.

First off, the concert was supposed to start at 7 or 7:30pm and we left sometime close to 9pm. If it were up to me we would've been on the road by 6/6:30 at the latest but it's not my car so what can I really say. These broads thought it would be okay because when they went to the winter concert promoted by the same station they didn't get there until around 10pm but were still able to see 4 or 5 acts. That wasn't the case this time. By the time we got there they were already on to the second to last act (Nicki Minaj). She was almost done with her set when we got there so we really only saw about 2 1/2 songs. I swear, these people take CP time to a whole new level...smh. (sidenote: CP time = colored people time). So that was strike 1 for the evening.

Then we got to see the full set of Ludacris which was good. We were excited at first because we thought we were gonna see Drake because he came out on stage while Nicki was on. We were wrong. It turns out that he had performed his set already and that was just an extra little tidbit on her song. He was the main person we all wanted to see so naturally we were pissed >:(. Strike 2 for the evening.

We go outside after making our way through the crowd of hot mess that was in the building. Naturally it was raining and we parked on the street because we were so late and had to walk to the car. Did I mention I just got my hair done earlier that day? Yeah. Then instead of going to one of the after parties nearby, these fools decide they want to drive back to New Haven and go to a regular bar and just chill and drink. Really? How anti-climactic. Again, if it were up to me we would've gone to one of the after parties with Ludacris, Lil' Jon or Young Money. But again, I wasn't driving and apparently I was outnumbered 2 to 1. Then on the ride we heard about all the stuff we missed at the beginning of the concert on the radio. Like Lil' Jon DJing or something, Gyptian (who my friend LOVES) opening the show, and some girl throwing a leopard print bra on stage at Drake. Then of course all the callers on the radio kept saying that Drake was their favorite part of the show. Nice. Would this be strike 3 or 4?

So we ended up going to this dry little bar that I don't much like anyway but they have good wings and make good drinks so whatever. Whenever there happens to be more than 3 people in that place they're usually 35 or older. Sorry but I'm not interested in partying with people 10 years older than me. This time we walked in on some girl's birthday party. I guess she was also a biker because there were a lot of them in there with their tricked out leather jackets and bikes parked outside. We used the bathroom, had 2 drinks and left. At least the one bartender was hot.

The night wasn't a total bust because I really enjoyed the Luda performance and what we actually saw of Nicki and Drake. Maybe next time people will leave on time, especially since we ended up paying $65 to see 2 people perform. Actually 1 1/2. SMFH

Job Interview Nonsense

So after applying to practically every job that I'm just barely qualified for I finally got called for an interview for a nurse externship at a local hospital. For those who don't know, being a student nurse extern is probably the best job a student nurse can have. It's basically like paid clinical. It's great because you can get a real feel for what it will be like when you actually become a nurse and start working in the real world. You can also get much more time to learn and master skills than you get with a few hours of clinical a week.

Now for the crappy news. I interviewed for a position on a med/surg unit so they wanted a recommendation from my med/surg clinical instructor. Unfortunately for me, I took med/surg in the fall of 2008 and my former instructor no longer works at my school so I have no idea how to contact her. I was able to get a recommendation from my OB instructor after blowing up her email and phone for the past week but apparently that's not good enough. The nurse recruiter told me that she can't offer the position without a recommendation from the med/surg instructor. *sigh* FMMFL (that is: fuck my mother fucking life)

I do and I don't understand why this is necessary. I can understand why it would be better to have a recommendation from a med/surg instructor if I'm trying to get a job on a med/surg floor. On the other hand, I don't understand why the recommendation from my OB instructor isn't good enough. She can comment on my abilities the same way my old instructor would be able to. And on the form they give the instructors to fill out it asks for their opinion on my performance, time management, ability to teach, etc. which to me is something that anyone I've ever worked for can attest to, not just a clinical instructor for a particular unit. That's the part that really bugs me. The questions they ask in the recommendation are totally generic but they make a big deal about who it comes from. So annoying.

Now I have to call the secretary in the nursing department at my school to see if they have any kind of contact info for my old instructor which somehow I seriously doubt. I don't even know how long she's been gone. At the very least they should have her notes about me in my personal file so maybe I can at least get a copy of that to send the nurse recruiter. Anyway, that's all for now. Another trip to AC is in the works so I'll let everyone know how that goes. DEUCES!!!

Random Kat Fact: Bathing Suits

Today's random Kat fact:

I am not a fan of the mix and match bikini. I really hate it when the top and the bottom don't go together. I mean really, why buy a top with red polka dots then go to an entirely different store and get a blue bottom or something ridiculous like that? I just don't understand the fascination with this new trend. A lot of people seem to think it's cute but I don't. If you ever see me on the beach or by the pool wearing one of those mix and match things, shoot me because I've clearly lost my mind. That is all.

ps: I decided to go with Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man from my previous post about boredom.

Phlegmatic

I just happened to see the definition of the word phlegmatic online and I thought 'hey, that's me!' Ok, maybe it wasn't that exciting but you get the idea. Being the obsessive person I am of course I had to google the word and click on several different links with the definition and yep, that's me alright. Apparently phlegmatic is one of the four temperaments from psychology or whatever. I don't care that much about the details but the other three are sanguine, melancholic and choleric. Whenever I take those stupid facebook quizzes I always get melancholic but my friends always say that's not me and it's really not. If ever there was a perfect description of my personality, this is it (oh, MJ! RIP):


Phlegmatics tend to be self-content and kind. They can be very accepting and affectionate. They may be very receptive and shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change. They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators and diplomats. Unlike the Sanguine personality, they may be more dependable.

A Phlegmatic is neutral - they tend not to actively upset people, but their indifference may frustrate people. They try not to make decisions, and generally go for the status quo. They care about people and harmony.
(ps: it's not that I try not to make decisions, I'm just horribly indecisive)

phleg·mat·ic /flɛgˈmætɪk/ Show Spelled[fleg-mat-ik]

–adjective

1.not easily excited to action or display of emotion; apathetic; sluggish.

2.self-possessed, calm, or composed. 

(Idk if I would call myself sluggish, but certainly apathetic)

Phlegmatic: This is the flat-type. They are easy going, laid back, nonchalant, unexcitable and relaxed. Desiring a peaceful environment above all else.

 

Here are some brief descriptions of the other personality types in case you're interested: 

 

Sanguine 

The Sanguine temperament personality is fairly extroverted. People of a sanguine temperament tend to enjoy social gatherings and making new friends. They tend to be creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for those of this temperament. Sanguine can also mean very sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when pursuing a new hobby, interest is lost quickly—when it ceases to be engaging or fun.

Choleric
A person who is choleric is a doer. They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instill it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics. 

Melancholic
A person who is a thoughtful ponderer has a melancholic disposition. Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative – as in poetry and art - and can become occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world. A melancholic is also often a perfectionist. They are often self-reliant and independent.

(I got all the definitions from Wikipedia and dictionary.com)