Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Adopt a Kid or Have One the Old Fashioned Way?

Let me start by saying I am not in the market for a kid at the moment. It's the absolute WRONG time in my life. But with so many of my Facebook friends getting engaged, married and having babies the whole kid thing has really been on my mind a lot lately. And in case you're wondering, I'm 24. I really think this quarter life crisis thing is starting to get to me. I guess with graduation coming up next year I'm thinking a lot about my future and what I want to do with my life and what kind of time frame I'm looking at and for some reason I just can't get babies off my brain. Scary stuff huh?

Now on to the subject at hand.

I was just thinking about this because I remember hearing somewhere (possibly on an episode of Law & Order) that it was selfish to have kid when there's all these kids already out in the world who need homes. And on the one hand I totally get that and it makes perfect sense. I think a lot of people want to have kids so that they can pass on their genetic material to the next person and they can have someone that's literally a part of them. Not saying that's the only reason but I think that's a large part of it. Just being able to look at this kid and say "hey, I helped make that."

For me personally, I just feel like actually being pregnant and having a child is something that I really want to experience (as painful as it is). But no time soon of course. I have it stuck in my mind that I'm gonna have a little girl and name her Jordan.....with my luck I'll end up with all boys. Then there's the adoption thing. Would I at least consider it? Absolutely. But to be honest I would like to have at least one kid of my own. Maybe I can adopt one or two after I have my Jordan lol. But of course I'll have to graduate, find a job, a husband and a place to live first.....husband optional but that would be the ideal situation. Why you ask? Because I want to have a kid and if I sit around too long waiting for a husband in order to have a kid my eggs might be dried up by the time I find one then it'll be too late. I guess that's what sperm banks are for.

Anyway, just wondering what other people think. Is it selfish to have a biological child when there are already millions of parent-less kids out in the world just looking for a home? I don't. I think it's only natural for someone to want to have their own biological child but I can certainly see the argument for both sides.

What do you think?

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