I am not a fan of the mix and match bikini. I really hate it when the top and the bottom don't go together. I mean really, why buy a top with red polka dots then go to an entirely different store and get a blue bottom or something ridiculous like that? I just don't understand the fascination with this new trend. A lot of people seem to think it's cute but I don't. If you ever see me on the beach or by the pool wearing one of those mix and match things, shoot me because I've clearly lost my mind. That is all.
ps: I decided to go with Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man from my previous post about boredom.
I just happened to see the definition of the word phlegmatic online and I thought 'hey, that's me!' Ok, maybe it wasn't that exciting but you get the idea. Being the obsessive person I am of course I had to google the word and click on several different links with the definition and yep, that's me alright. Apparently phlegmatic is one of the four temperaments from psychology or whatever. I don't care that much about the details but the other three are sanguine, melancholic and choleric. Whenever I take those stupid facebook quizzes I always get melancholic but my friends always say that's not me and it's really not. If ever there was a perfect description of my personality, this is it (oh, MJ! RIP):
Phlegmatics tend to be self-content and kind. They can be very accepting and affectionate. They may be very receptive and shy and often prefer stability to uncertainty and change. They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators and diplomats. Unlike the Sanguine personality, they may be more dependable.
A Phlegmatic is neutral - they tend not to actively upset people, but their indifference may frustrate people. They try not to make decisions, and generally go for the status quo. They care about people and harmony.
(ps: it's not that I try not to make decisions, I'm just horribly indecisive)
1.not easily excited to action or display of emotion; apathetic; sluggish.
2.self-possessed, calm, or composed.
(Idk if I would call myself sluggish, but certainly apathetic)
Phlegmatic: This is the flat-type. They are easy going, laid back, nonchalant, unexcitable and relaxed. Desiring a peaceful environment above all else.
Here are some brief descriptions of the other personality types in case you're interested:
Sanguine
The Sanguine temperament personality is fairly extroverted. People of a sanguine temperament tend to enjoy social gatherings and making new friends. They tend to be creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for those of this temperament. Sanguine can also mean very sensitive, compassionate and thoughtful. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when pursuing a new hobby, interest is lost quickly—when it ceases to be engaging or fun.
Choleric
A person who is choleric is a doer. They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instill it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics.
Melancholic
A person who is a thoughtful ponderer has a melancholic disposition. Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative – as in poetry and art - and can become occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world. A melancholic is also often a perfectionist. They are often self-reliant and independent.
(I got all the definitions from Wikipedia and dictionary.com)
Yet another Friday night that I'm sitting home alone so I decided to write a little blog about some songs that are currently stuck in my head. Feel free to share yours too.
Unthinkable by Alicia Keys: I just absolutely LOVE this song Drake definitely did his thing (he wrote it in case you didn't know). But I really don't see the point of the remix. The only difference is that Drake has a verse in the beginning. To me a remix is something almost completely different from the song but not so unrecognizable that you don't know what the original song was. But that's just my opinion.
Why Don't You Love Me by Beyonce: I love Bey but I could've sworn I heard she was taking a break. Yet everywhere I look I see her. And how the hell is she nominated for a BET Award for an album that's what, 2 years old? I mean really, Sweet Dreams for best video? Stop the fuckery. In case you didn't know, her sister Solange wrote this song. (I know I'm bitching right now but I still love me some Bey)
Airplanes by B.O.B. feat. Hayley from Paramore: The first time I heard this song I was riding in a car with my friend on the way to the Jordin Sparks concert and my first thought was 'wtf is this bullshit?' After hearing it a few more times I grew to really like it so of course I had to download it. I don't know much about this B.O.B. person but I do like Paramore so why not?(ps: the youtube video for this one is a little...off)
Romeo & Juliet Soundtrack: You know the one with Leonardo DiCaprio and Claire Danes? Yep, that one. They've been playing it a lot on tv lately and my favorite parts are the ones with the singing. The little boy who sings Everybody's Free and When Doves Cry, the part at the party where Mercucio (sp?) I think is dressed in drag singing that young hearts run free song or whatever it's called, then the part where R & J first see each other and that Kissing You song is being sung. I freaking love that movie and the music in it.
Take You Home by Adrienne Bailon: This is a remake to the Lisa Lisa song from the 80's which I also really like but I love Adrienne's version too. I'm ready for her solo album to hurry up and come out already. What's the hold up?! (notice: there are 2 different links; one for the song and one for my other blog post)
That's all for now. DEUCES!!!!
(sn: most of the post titles are links....in case you didn't notice.)
I mean really, just bored. Now that school is over and I have yet to find a job, I have absolutely no life. Add to that the fact that the few people I actually hang out with around here graduated and are moving back home by the end of the summer I'm REALLY screwed for a social life. I'm planning on going back home for a while this summer so hopefully then I can at least find a little something to do but still. As much as I hated having to wake up at 5 am to be at clinical by 6:30am I'd much rather be doing that than sitting around the house all day every day with nothing to do. It's times like this where I wish I had a ton of friends or different groups of friends to hang with and a booming social life. But being quiet and somewhat shy has seriously limited my number of friends....damn. I guess I could read the stack of books I have sitting on my dresser but I'm not sure where to start. These are my options:
-Push by Sapphire (the book the movie Precious was based on)
-A Time to Kill by John Grisham (I love the movie so I figured I may as well read the book)
-Othello by Shakespeare (I saw the movie 'O' with Mekhi Phifer and Julia Stiles, loved it and again thought I may as well read the book)
-Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey (I just think it's necessary)
-The Complete Stories by Flannery O'Connor (We read some of her stuff in high school and I loved it but never got around to reading anything else of hers...so I bought book with pretty much ALL of her writings)
After a few twitter posts about random facts about me I decided to make it a somewhat regular occurrence on my blog. I forgot I had another post with the same title not long ago but whatever...it'll work (hopefully). I don't know how regularly I'm gonna do this or even if I'm gonna keep doing it long term but I guess we'll just see what happens.
Today's Kat Fact: I prefer to eat my microwaved popcorn right out of the bag instead of poured into a bowl.
I know it's not much but it's random and it is a fact. DEUCES!!!
Another one of those hot button topics out there. My problem with the religion and church thing is when people try to force their beliefs on me or make me feel bad for not thinking the same way they do. For example, my dad. He's in church pretty much every Sunday and he's always trying to get me to go with him and I probably will eventually but no time soon (and not because I want to, but because he wants me to and I figure it's the least I can do). The thing that bugs me is that when I say no he's all "don't you want to go to heaven?" Really daddy? I love you but calm the fuck down. Sorry but I refuse to believe that not going to church is an automatic ticket to hell. And I don't think I should be made to feel bad for my decision not to go.
In the past I never had a specific reason for not going to church, I just didn't want to. But now I don't want to go because I don't agree with some of the things that are taught in church and I feel that some religious people take the Bible WAY too literally. I personally don't feel that the Bible is something that's meant to be taken word for word. I mean think about it. Look who wrote it and when. A bunch of semi-anonymous old white dudes somewhere in the beginning of time. Do I really want to live my life based on their words? They say it's what God says but how do I know that? How does anyone? Are we just supposed to take their word for it? To an extent I suppose but, I don't know. To be honest, old white dudes haven't always been kind to my people in the past so forgive me if I don't want to heed their advice.
Then there's the whole obedient wife thing I talked about in another post. And of course everyone's favorite topic: homosexuality. On Sunday mornings on BET they show sermons, etc from various preachers, churches and what not. One day I heard a pastor say something about how being gay is wrong, a sin, blah blah blah, bullshit, bullshit, bullshit, yadda yadda yadda. Of course the whole ignorant congregation was in agreement with this fool. At that point I decided I was done with church. If I had to sit there and listen to that idiotic nonsense about how "wrong" homosexuality is I think I might stand up and scream right in the middle of the service. Idiots. One thing I absolutely can not stand is homophobia. It truly pisses me off to no end. I talk about that a little bit here. I just have a serious problem with perpetuating hate and ignorance under the guise of religion. Don't blame your closed mind on God, it's not a good look. Anyway, that's all for now.
ps: I went to Catholic school for 8 years and yes I do believe in God, just not sure about the "institution" of religion (if that makes sense).
My friend Jo somehow won a free room for a night at Harrah's in Atlantic City so she decided to do a girl's night...yay! I'm not sure how she won it, I think she just filled out her info for one of their rewards cards. Anyway, 5 of us drove down Tuesday night for our little mini vacation and it was....interesting.
A word of advice, if you plan on going clubbing in AC, don't go on a Tuesday. We learned that the hard way. The website for Harrah's showed that they have a nightclub around their pool which looked really fun, we failed to notice that the nightclub isn't open on Tuesdays. And what made it worse was that there was a group of seniors from the College of NJ there on a trip who had I guess reserved or rented out the pool/nightclub for the night. We basic stood their like losers wishing we could go in but it was a private event so the security said we couldn't. After a while we noticed a lot of people leaving so we convinced ourselves that the party sucked anyway.
After finding out that the buffet was $30 per person, we ate the cheapest thing we could which was pizza and subs. Fun times. Then we went back to our room and called a bunch of hotels nearby (Borgata, Trump Marina, etc.) to see if they had nightclubs open and they all said the same thing...No. A few of them told us that our best bet was to go on the main strip and find a bar to go to because most of the clubs are closed on Tuesdays. After sitting around feeling defeated for deciding to come on the ONE night where nothing was open we were finally able to find out that Dusk at Caesar's was open. I think someone from one of the other hotels told us that was the only place she knew of.
Now that we weren't feeling so pathetic we mixed some drinks then headed out on our merry way. Did I mention the fact that it was about 40 some odd degrees and drizzling? No, well it was. It had stopped raining by the time we left but it was still pretty chilly out and our slutty club dresses didn't help the situation. Once we actually got to Caesar's we were still a little nervous about how the night would go because it was pretty deserted but once we actually went down into the club we were pleasantly surprised.
The place was packed (probably because it was the only thing open so people didn't have much of a choice as to where to go) and the music was really good....for the first few hours anyway. The DJ was great, the only problem was that he didn't play the songs long enough which I hate. He would put on a good song then only let it play for like 30 seconds or something ridiculous like that. The really good news is that there were cuties galore in there. And I exchanged numbers with one cutie who just so happens to be from Philly....how convenient!
Anyway, once the music got sucky we went back to our room and went to sleep. Then in the morning these simple broads wanted to go to the pool. *sigh* They set the alarm for 7am when the pool opened so we could go before we left. I kept my ass in bed, fuck a pool. Especially at that time. On a side note, you need ID to get into the pool at Harrah's because it has a bar and kids aren't allowed.
All in all, we ended up having a really nice time. Next time we go to AC we're definitely trying to stay at Caesar's but the Borgata is still my main hotel goal. Someday....
My dad called me today to ask about mother's day. First thing he says is: "How did you enjoy mother's day yesterday?" Maybe I have a child somewhere that only he knows about. Just kidding, I get why he asked that...sort of. Then he told me he went to put flowers on my mom's grave and said: "Yeah, she was smiling and all that good stuff." Really daddy? Hahaha, he cracks me up. Anyway, I'm glad to know he was thinking about her after just coming back from visiting his new wife in KY (long story). That's all for now, much shorter than my usual blog post but whatever. Still studying for finals, only one more then I'm officially done for the semester...yay!
I have never in my 24 years of life worn any type of fake hair. No braids, no weaves, no tracks, no wigs, no extensions, NADA. For no particular reason, I just never wanted to. When I was a kid and all my friends at school would get their little micro-braids and what not my mom would ask if I wanted them too but I always said no. Again, no real reason why, it just wasn't my thing.
It almost seems a little strange because I'm pretty sure every black girl I've ever known (or at least the majority of them) have worn some type of weave in their life. Sometimes I think it's almost expected because it's the "norm." I don't quite remember but I'm pretty sure I've been asked if my hair is really MY hair in the past and if people didn't flat out ask I'm sure there was some speculation. It's a natural girl thing I think, to look at another girl's hair and wonder "is that all hers?"
Now don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with a little (or a lot) of fake hair here and there, it's just not my thing. I've never done it and I probably never will but who knows, never say never I guess. And in case you were wondering, my hair now is about medium length I guess, almost bra strap length (not shoulder straps, the one that goes across your back). I don't know that length makes a difference though because I've seen girls with long hair still wearing extensions for thickness or whatever. I don't know why some people do or don't wear weaves. To be honest I don't really care that much. Whatever floats your boat.
This decision has been weighing on my mind lately. To be honest I never even considered the possibility of grad school until they handed out some survey in class about a new DNP program for nursing. I'm not graduating from school until next year but I'm so indecisive about everything I really need to start thinking seriously about this now.
First off, I don't NEED a masters degree. Once I graduate I'll have my BSN then I can take the NCLEX, get my RN license and be an official nurse. As an RN I can get a job and work anywhere and be totally fine. Bottom line is, a masters degree isn't necessary for me to have the career I want. Also, going for my masters means at least 2 more years of school, maybe 3 depending on the school and the type of program. I've already been in school much longer than I should have or wanted to be. With setbacks, being out of school for a period of time, and having to retake classes, I'm graduating way after I was supposed to. Because of this I really, REALLY don't want be in school any longer than absolutely necessary. Another thing is that more school also means more money, which means more student loans, which means more debt after I graduate. I'm already cringing at the thought of all the money I'm gonna owe when I finally do get out of this place. *sigh*
On the up side, with a masters degree I would be able to get a higher level job which means better pay and more authority. Nothing wrong with that. And of course, I'll be able to have more letters at the end of my name...Hahaha. Wow, way more negatives than positives for the masters degree so it's looking like a no but I'm still not entirely sure. Add to the negatives the fact that I would have to take that stupid GRE just to get into grad school...ugh.
Anyway, like I said I have no idea what I'm gonna do about this. I still have some time to decide and with school at least you know it's always there. But I think it would be harder to go back if I were out for a while, unlike if I just went straight through. *sigh* So many decisions.
I haven't posted anything in a while so here's a little mini-post about what's been going on. This weekend I went home for my friend's birthday party and that was pretty fun. I went on a nice little trip to the mall and got a few dresses which is always good. Then on Saturday the birthday girl and I went to see Jordin Sparks perform at the Wolf Den of the Mohegan Sun casino for FREE! It was fun and she was great. The funniest thing was this older woman who fell on her ass because she was so drunk...smh. She tapped my friend and I to say she liked the video we were taking and all we could smell was alcohol. A mess! Then the real kicker for the evening was my period unexpectedly showing up. I was really shocked until I realized a new month had started so technically it was right on schedule. Too bad I had to throw away a perfectly good pair of underwear and spent most of the night having my friend check my ass for blood stains *sigh*. Girls, you know what I'm talking about and guys, sorry if that's tmi. Anyway, now I'm back at school and thank God it's the last day of classes. Although I feel it's completely ridiculous that we should actually have to go to class today but whatever. I don't know how much I'll be posting in the next couple of weeks with finals and everything but we'll see. DUECES!!!
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