Open Relationships: Yay or Nay?

The other day over on Necole Bitchie's blog there was a big discussion about open relationships after she posted something about Jill Scott's and Chilli's thoughts on the subject. There were several other celebrities whose opinions were listed as well as a number of readers. This made me start to think about my feelings on the subject. To be honest, I have no desire to ever be in an open relationship, especially if that relationship is an actual marriage. I just don't see the point in being with someone with the understanding that stepping out of the relationship is okay.

I suppose the arguments in favor of open relationships can be viewed as relevant but I still disagree. One argument in favor of open relationships mentioned that even if you're with one person you can still be attracted to someone else, which I agree with. Just because you're committed to and in love with one person doesn't automatically make you dead to the rest of the world. However, that doesn't mean that you should act on it.

I personally feel that there's no point in having an open relationship, marriage in particular. I mean, what's the point of getting married if you're still gonna see/hook-up/sleep with other people outside the relationship. You may as well not even get married. I guess the big difference is that your partner knows what's going on but still. That wouldn't give me much comfort. It sounds like dating to me. There's a few people you like, maybe one more than others, but you're keeping your options open. To me that's not what a relationship is about. I feel like if you're gonna marry someone that person should be enough. Period. Sure you'll always find other people attractive and there's nothing wrong with that, but have some self control. Is it really THAT difficult? I don't think so.

Anyway, that's just my two cents. Do what you want, it's your life.

That's all for now.

Did I start some drama?

....and more importantly, do I care?

So here's the deal, I had a huge ridiculous crush on this guy all through high school but he never even looked my way. Since graduating we've seen each other out around town but we never really said anything to each other because we were never friends. He was, however, friends with a good friend of mine. Long story short, we ran into each other at a bar last year and after encouragement from my friend in the form of "Hey, you remember Katrina right?" we ended up talking a bit and exchanging numbers....yay! (or so I thought)

We were talking/texting/facebook chatting back and forth for a while because I left to go back to school. Then when I was home for a weekend I went and hung out with him for a bit. After I came back we still talked pretty regularly for a couple of weeks then nothing, which is as much my fault as it is his because sometimes I just don't care enough to keep in touch with people, especially guys *shrugs*.

Anyway, after some time went by he started talking to me on facebook chat one day and it all went downhill from there. First off, he contacted me through his friend's account who I'm also friends with which I thought was a little weird. To be honest, I didn't believe it was him for several reasons. First is because he asked if we were gonna hang out that night which I found strange because the last time we saw each other was the day before I left for school. He even called me the next night to see if I made it back okay. Then this is how the facebook convo went:

Him: When you get back I'm gonna lick that ass.
Me: Umm, ew.
Him: Let me hit you up when I get on my page, I'm on my boy's account right now.
Me: Probably not because I'm kinda grossed out right now.

Suddenly I see that he is signed on under his own name and I quickly logged off. That was the last I spoke to him. Less than a week later his facebook says that he's now 'In a relationship' with some thick broad. Really? Not 2 seconds ago you were trying to lick my ass and now you're in a relationship?! Ok, I get it. Upon seeing this I decided to click 'Like' on his new relationship status. There were also comments from a few other girls pretty much congratulating him on this new relationship. Then a day or so later there is a comment from the thick broad saying "oh, so you deleted it because of these little comments?" That's when I noticed that his relationship status was no longer listed as in a relationship. He basically just removed the relationship status portion of his profile and the thick broad 'Liked' that he was 'No longer in a relationship.'

The question is, did I cause this drama? Did my one little asshole move bring problems to others? I don't know. Maybe I'm giving myself too much credit here. Maybe it had nothing to do with me at all, it just happened. But the timing is a little convenient for it to just be a coincidence because I didn't 'Like' his status until about 2 days later. I just find it funny that he deleted his status just after I 'Liked' it. Either way, I had a hearty laugh at his expense. The whole thing was quite entertaining.