Back to Africa??? What is That About?

I haven't thought about this in a while, but I was watching something on tv the other day with flashbacks from the 60s showing white people carrying signs saying "Back to Africa" on them. For the life of me, I've NEVER understood that whole back to Africa "campaign" if you will. My whole thing is, aren't white people the ones who brought Africans to America in the first place? So how are you gonna be mad about us being here if it's your fault we're here? The Africans were minding their own business when Mr. Slave Master decided to show up and rip them out of their home. Did they ask to come here? Nope. Not even a little bit.

Then, generations later we have Mr. Slave Master's descendants telling Black people to go back to Africa. I'm pretty sure that my entire family of Black folks was born right here in America, as was I, so how are we gonna go back to a place we've never been? If you have a problem with me being here, blame your ancestors. It's like, us being here was okay for all those years you were getting over on us and forcing us into free labor but once we got our freedom our presence was suddenly a problem. Oh well, not our fault so get over it.

Anyway, that's all I really have to say on the subject. It's just something that always bothered me because if you really think about it, it makes no sense.

That's all for now....

No homo? Stop the Stupidity

Of all the idiotic, unnecessary slang terms out there I'm pretty sure "no homo" is the worst. I mean seriously, what moron came up with that? Furthermore, why did the aforementioned moron's friends let him believe it was a good idea to actually use that term? I have such an issue with the use of this term because it just doesn't make any sense to me. What's really the point of saying "no homo" before making a statement?

I don't know for sure how the use of "no homo" got started but the first time I remember hearing it was in Lil' Wayne's song Lollipop. From then on it seemed like I was hearing it practically everywhere. The majority of people I hear saying it are African American males *insert my shocked face...NOT*. Apparently some men feel the need to say "no homo" before saying something so that whoever they're talking to doesn't think they're gay or so they won't sound gay. Personally, that's probably one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. I guess it's a guy thing because they feel this need to protect or prove their masculinity all the time. Even when it's not in question.

For me, if a guy feels the need to say "no homo" it only makes me think that he really is on the down low and trying to cover it up. Whereas if he had just said whatever he was going to say with no preface, I probably wouldn't think anything of it. But the fact that you feel the need to put a disclaimer before your statement makes me think there's something else going on. Are you so insecure that you can't make a simple statement without being afraid of what people may think of you? I mean really, dudes can't even compliment each other without it being a big deal. It's always "I'm not gay but...." whenever they compliment each other. Really dude? It's not that serious. Giving someone of the same sex a compliment doesn't mean you're gay and it doesn't mean people are going to think you're gay. Stop being an idiot!

I think it's very different and I guess easier for females. I myself can compliment another female without feeling like people will think I'm a lesbian. I have no problem saying "Oh she's cute" or "Hey, her boobs are awesome." What's the big deal? Just because I can admit that another female is attractive doesn't mean I want to jump her bones. I don't understand why so many males have yet to grasp this concept. I guess it's because most of them have this overwhelming need to constantly prove their masculinity. Apparently in guy world saying another guy is good looking is less than masculine or sounds gay but in my mind it's just the opposite. If a man is secure enough in himself and his masculinity he should have no problem saying anything he wants to say without putting "no homo" in front of it.

That's all for now. DEUCES!!!

White people and the 'N' word...wtf is going on?

A touchy subject that 'N' word isn't it? Once again I've been inspired by the situation of others. This all started with a Facebook status which just convinced me even more that Facebook can and will get you into trouble eventually. Anyway, on to the point of this post.

A white girl, who I'll call 'S', posted a rap lyric on her FB status using the N word (the 'a' version not the 'er' version). Just as a little background, this isn't the first time she's used n***a in a status of hers but I'm not entirely sure if they've been song lyrics in the past. Also her kid is half black so I'm pretty sure she's not racist. Anyway, back on topic....after she made this comment my friend, who I'll call 'L', commented on her status saying something to the effect of 'do you really need to use the N word?' From that point it got a little heated because S got all pissy and started throwing attitude and L threw it right back, etc. You know how that whole thing goes. Then another white girl, M, commented that she thought it was okay as long as it ends in 'a' and not 'er.' *sigh* And that's why I'm writing this.

To all my white friends out there it is NOT okay to use the N word ever for any reason. I don't care how "down" you think you are or if you think you have a so called "hood pass" or if you grew up around Black people your entire life. It's just not cool. Period. I don't even like when Black people use the word too much. People are just way too comfortable throwing it around these days and I just don't get it. Hell even Hispanics use is sometimes (for examples, see Fat Joe and other Latino rappers). That whole 'we took the word and turned into something positive' BS excuse that Black people try to use is just that...bullshit. How the hell do you turn a derogatory term into something positive? Is that even possible? Just another lame ass excuse if you ask me.

And before anyone asks, yes I have used the 'a' version of the word in the past and probably will again in the future. Is it right just because I'm Black? No. Is it okay because I'm Black? Maybe. At the very least it's less wrong, if that makes sense. In any case, I'm working on not using the N word at all which is completely doable. Sometimes it's the first word I think of but it's really not that hard to stop and think for a second before you actually say something out loud. I think the worst part is that I know better yet I've still used it but I'm trying. What can I say, I'm still a work in progress.