Book Review: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

I've been wanting to read Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey for a while now but with school I really didn't have much time for leisure reading. Now that I finally had the chance to read the whole thing I thought I'd share my thoughts with whoever stumbles upon this blog.

For those who don't know, the book is basically a relationship guide for women from a man's perspective. He gives pretty good insight about how men think about relationships which is very different from the way women thing about them. Anyway, I really liked the book. The only part I didn't read was the chapter about single parent dating because I don't have any kids so none of his advice on the subject would apply to me.

The main thing that really stood out to me was that women really do have a lot of power over what goes on in a relationship but either they don't realize it or they just don't use it. Steve talks about how women are the ones who decide when, where, or if they have sex with a guy. It doesn't always seem like it but when you think about it it's actually true. The best thing was where he said that women need to get standards which I totally agree with. Not like Chilli or anything but enough to let someone know that you're only going to accept the best. The women with standards are the ones he referred to as 'keepers' while those without standards are pretty much just 'game fish' to be thrown back once men get what they want from them (which is sex of course).

In the book he also talks about the differences between men and boys. He gives women questions to ask to guys they're interested in and based on their answers you can tell if he's a real man with his shit together (or at least working on getting it together) looking for a meaningful relationship or just a boy playing games to get some ass. I really don't feel like going into too much detail here but some of the questions were about his future plans, what he thinks of you, etc. Perfectly logical stuff that I don't think most women ask. I know I never have but I'll definitely start after reading this book. I'm not in the mood to deal with the same nonsense from guys anymore.

One thing I got from the book that I pretty much already knew is that all men are basically the same. But I'm sure most people knew that already. They're very simple creatures when you really think about it. And I don't mean that in a bad way. Anyway, long story short, I would definitely recommend this book to any woman out there wondering what the hell is up with dudes and how they can get the type of relationship they want. I'll give it 4 out of 5 stars.


p.s. On the radio show Steve said he's working on a second book where he drops even more knowledge about men for women. I'm looking forward to it :)

I'm Bored

I mean really, just bored. Now that school is over and I have yet to find a job, I have absolutely no life. Add to that the fact that the few people I actually hang out with around here graduated and are moving back home by the end of the summer I'm REALLY screwed for a social life. I'm planning on going back home for a while this summer so hopefully then I can at least find a little something to do but still. As much as I hated having to wake up at 5 am to be at clinical by 6:30am I'd much rather be doing that than sitting around the house all day every day with nothing to do. It's times like this where I wish I had a ton of friends or different groups of friends to hang with and a booming social life. But being quiet and somewhat shy has seriously limited my number of friends....damn. I guess I could read the stack of books I have sitting on my dresser but I'm not sure where to start. These are my options:

-Push by Sapphire (the book the movie Precious was based on)

-A Time to Kill by John Grisham (I love the movie so I figured I may as well read the book)

-Othello by Shakespeare (I saw the movie 'O' with Mekhi Phifer and Julia Stiles, loved it and again thought I may as well read the book)

-Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey (I just think it's necessary)

-The Complete Stories by Flannery O'Connor (We read some of her stuff in high school and I loved it but never got around to reading anything else of hers...so I bought book with pretty much ALL of her writings)

Decisions, decisions....hmm